I heard this on Ria just now. Its quite sad really.

This guy claims he used to have a lot of girlfriends. Then there was this one girl, after knowing each other for a long time, they eventually got together. They talked and dabbled with the idea of marriage for a while. He then thought it was alright and went ahead with it. 2 years later, he met this other woman at work. Apparently he said, they were working together for a project and got really close to the point of having an office affair with her. He now think she's the one for him. Confessed to the wife about the affair. And the wife replied that she is now with a child. So now, he's clueless. He doesn't know what to do.

Sad, don't you think?

I am just curious. If he thinks the 3rd party is the one for him. Then who was that woman he decided to get married with 2 years ago? Wasn't she the one then? So how many the one does he need?

I think it's important to look for the one. It's not very realistic, but I do believe, there's such thing as the one. But I also believe that some people uses this the one line too much for their own comfort. You made a promise, to God, to her wali, to her saksi and to her family that you accept her as your wife, that you will care for her and respect her as a wife, as a woman. Though it's not stated in the akad nikah till death do us part, at least have the decency to remember and remind yourself why you wed her in the first place. I am just angry at the fact that he never mentioned one bit about the wife being the one for him and keep on harping that this new woman in his life is the one for him. It's ridiculous really. Yes I understand matters of the heart is a complicated thing. But God, respect the very idea of marriage. You made the decision. You made the promise.

Sometimes I get scared at this idea of marriage. Coz what is marriage, really?

Hanim